Sunday, 15 February 2015

3 Reasons Why BDSM Is Pretty Intimate

Heyoooo, Schneckens!
Valentine's Day wasn't too bad, in fact, I liked it. Hung out with the Asian mom; Skyped Tanaka and got a few Valentine Day surprises from a certain Pixie in my life. When I say surprises, I mean he made me laugh so much I thought I would actually pee myself. Ah, Tanaka also did that. So in summary, yesterday I nearly peed myself from laughter.

Now let's move on and discuss BDSM because so many people are watching 50 Shades and are not getting an accurate representation. Eurgh, that film.

3 Reasons Why BDSM Is Pretty Intimate:

1. You're allowing someone to dominate or submit to you ~ That is a lot of trust and respect between both partners! It can be such an intense and sublime experience that really strengthens the bases of a relationship. You really have to have an intimate relationship to be so open and trusting, which is beautiful to be a part of.



2. Sexual intercourse isn't necessary ~ People may think that actual intercourse brings you closer, but the fact that BDSM doesn't involve that is a hella lot more intimate. Like you are so in touch with each other's, well, touch and their presence that awakes your senses. The way the equipment feels against your skin as your partner explores every part of you. When it's just sex, it's just sex. Dick in the vagina or butt or any other sex act that I have foolishly left out. When you leave that out, it really gives you time to explore your partner and what they like. It's like extended foreplay and foreplay is awesome!



3. There is a debriefing period afterwards ~ Officially known as 'Aftercare!' You and your partner discuss the scene you just had; from what you liked and what you didn't like. Sometimes with normal penetrative sex you don't get that. So it is quite an intimate experience to be able to discuss what you're thinking and how you both can improve this scene for the next one. It's all rather respectful and intimate!



And that's my reasons for why BDSM is pretty intimate. Its all down to personal taste I guess, but if you are thinking of BDSM, remember: stay safe, sane and consensual!


Toodles :)