Sunday, 7 September 2014

Slut Shaming

Hey, Schneckens!
I'm moving out next week. Holy shittles - that is hella daunting! There are loads of stuff in my room that needs to be packed and that's not even including my clothes. So if anyone wants to help me pack, much appreciated. I can reward you in brownies. Just need to get brownies first. I WANT MOTHERFUDGING BROWNIES!

I was trying to think of what to write today because I genuinely couldn't think of much; so I started watching some YouTube videos. I eventually stumbled across Jenna Marbles' 'Things I Don't Understand About Girls Part 2: Slut Edition'. Why do people feel as if it is okay to shame women for this sorta thing? The whole video just seemed like she was looking down on women who choose to have casual and consensual sex with men. Like, what is a slut? Apparently a slut is a woman who has sex with multiple partners, without the intention of a relationship, but no one ever puts an exact figure on it. Is two slutty? Or does it have to be more? I don't fully understand. Like, if I only have sex with two different guys, in a month, and not date them, is that slutty? But what if I've had sex with six different guys, but dated them all, even if it was the world's shortest relationships? Why is that not seen as wrong? Does anybody really have a right to judge you on your sex life?

What really got me was when she had a section named 'Stupid Sluts' and she started talking about karma and how women who sleep around are "just asking for it". Wow. Wow, wow, wow. WOW. This part came across when she was talking about 'sluts' who sleep with other people's boyfriends. Firstly, takes two to tango and clearly the boyfriend had no problems with cheating on his girlfriend, whereas the so called 'slut' is single. Hmm, logic there. Because the woman is a 'slut', she is immediately to blame, when in reality we should really look at the man since he's the one in the relationship and shouldn't be straying away. Secondly, what the hell is she trying to say about karma and how the so-called 'slut' in her eyes are "just asking for it"? What does she mean about this exactly? Is she saying that a woman deserves to be punished because she had sex with someone who should've known not to sleep with her as he was in a relationship? Is she saying that a human being should be victimised what she has done and receive bad things because she made one mistake?

The ending was just a joke to be honest. She started talking about if you see a man trying to take a drunk woman back to his place, how we, sober women, should go towards her and ask if she's alright. That is actually a good thing to do - but here's why I'm laughing - SHE JUST SPENT 6 MINUTES PRIOR TO THIS SLUT SHAMING THESE WOMEN. SHE SAID THAT TO THE WOMEN SHE'S DONE THIS FOR THAT SHE "SAVED THEM". WHAT THE ACTUAL FUU-?! You know what, she did in the sense that this guy could've been incredibly dangerous, but you haven't saved her from the emotional dangers of it all. She has shamed women by labelling them sluts for acting in a certain way and as a result added to the growing fire in society. Thanks, Jenna, you may have stopped her from going home with that guy, but you spent a good chunk of that night bitching about her and so forth. Thanks.

I won't keep ranting because the video pissed me off too much. Humans, respect one another, that is all you have to do. You don't know these people, so why pry on their lives? And most importantly, don't slut shame, it's a terrible thing in society that just gives people the right to look down on women and that's horrible, not to mention we're in the 21st Century - women aren't repressed into the kitchen anymore. If she wants to have sex, let her. If a guy can do it and not get shamed, then why can't a woman?

Toodles :)