Sunday, 24 August 2014

AAAA-MEN!

Hello, Schneckens!
Yesterday was obviously a busy day, but it was an amazingly busy day. It was a pleasure being able to attend Zoe's leaving party and then Sister-in-Law Josephine's birthday meal. So let's get cracking, shall we?!

Firstly, I want to start with a slightly negative note. Yesterday I discovered that my book had been shared to multiple people, WITHOUT my consent. I can't actually find the words to express how upset I am about this because there simply are not words. When I wrote that book, I did it as an act of closure, but also as a way to indirectly tell people of my fragile state, as well as showing a woman's perspective when embarking on a certain journey in her life. Finding out that someone had sent this out deeply hurt me as individuals have found it completely acceptable to treat me in a vulgar and sexualised way, even if I was extremely uncomfortable. Do you know how horrific that feels when you are a woman? To be perceived as a slut? No, of course not, unless you've been called that. No woman is a slut, but individuals find it acceptable to label some as that. When a man is given a reputation, it seems to be a positive and are praised for it, but for a woman we are slaughtered and forever labelled. Did this person, who shared it without my consent, even consider how this would impact me in the future, given as I wrote that piece of work and can be easily traced back to me? How I never explicitly said who it was and gave very vague details? I have said repeatedly how I have recently found it hard to escape my demons and sought solace in the idea of permanently escaping it; and it's people like this that make the idea more appealing - because if I have to spend another second in a world where someone could be so bitter, so cruel and so judgmental, then that's a second too much. So thank you very, very much. You could potentially ruin my life and for what exactly? Revenge? A laugh? I'm not laughing, in fact I'm so upset right now. So thanks again.

Moving on, because quite frankly, I just don't want to do this anymore, I want to talk about folk who are amazing and worth my time. My first adventure was at Zoe's place, where it was a tiny Drama reunion. It was lovely seeing Zoe, Eliana and José again, along with Ruby, and I wish Zoe every bit of success and happiness in India in the next year. She has worked incredibly hard to get to where she is right now and I am sure she will do wonderfully in India! As for Eliana, I hope she too has a good year ahead in where ever her adventures take her because she is one of the smartest and strongest women I know. Then José (not in an anti-climactic way, I must stress!) I hope University goes well for him and he enjoys what life provides for him. It was a shame myself and Ruby had to leave early, but it was wonderful regardless. Zoe's mother was also delightful, and I absolutely enjoyed the food provided - I felt very welcomed, so thanks!

 
 
 

 


Then after a grueling journey to Chimichanga, myself and Ruby met up with the birthday girl, Josie, her friend Abby and my mom, Ruby K. It was the most craziest night I had in a while; the dinner was fly and the drinks were awesome. Alcohol doesn't have a strong effect on me though. Had more shots than some, and downed a lot of that other fancy drink, but I was pretty sober. I mean, I may have been a bit ghetto in the car back, but that's not drunk, that's just me being ghetto. Nonetheless, it was a fun night and it was a pleasure to spend it with some hella fly peeps. Plus, I embraced my inner Southern Belle, which is always fun!

 
 

 
 
 
 



 
 
 
 

And that was my Saturday night and it was hella fly.

Toodles :)